The Asian In-Laws From Hell

I read a lot of blogs and forums of Black females married to, or in relationships with, Asian men. The love between them appears to be real. However, the biggest complaint these sisters have aren't about the difference between cultures, lifestyles, etc. It's about the in-laws they have, or will have. In other words, the unadulterated hate, the in-laws have for her just because she's black.

Now, I give the men BIG props for marrying the woman they love regardless of what their parents say. One man said his parents refuse to even be in the same room with his wife! Sisters, I know how hard it is for love to come around, I really do. But no matter what age and stage of life you're at, NEVER accept HATE into your life! Yes, I know it's not him but his parents, but let someone with a lot of experience put a "bug" in your ear: He is a direct product of those parents!
I cannot see myself marrying into a family so ignorant, hateful and contemptible. I just can't see it. The world is in enough trouble as it is and I surely don't need the headache of trying to "win over" some simple minded butt hole whose thought processes are stuck in the 19th century. Can't do. I, as a strong, independent, intelligent Black female will NOT prove my humanity to any damned body! Won't happen. I love MEN, not boys.

If your "honey" feels the pressure so strongly to "obey" his parents, don't fight it because he's not the one for you. Personally, I feel everyone in my life is honored that I am acquainted with them. I have a lot to offer and I have great insight into so many things that others never even think about. My heart overflows with love for LIFE. Time is the one thing that once it's gone, can never be recaptured. Why waste it trying to appease someone who's already lived the majority of their lives when yours is all ahead of you?

Men, don't ever leave this world having regrets that you didn't love the one you wanted! Ladies, your man may say he loves you so much it doesn't matter what his parents think or say but think about it: traditional Asian families have very strong ties. Eventually, if he goes against his parents wishes and marries you anyway, not now, not tomorrow, but one day, he will resent you. The strongest bonds in the world are between parent and child.

The funny thing is that most Black in-laws may not be overjoyed that their child is marrying someone of a different race, but the majority sure won't outright reject or disown them for it! We, as a people, have always been more accepting. Not because we're so happy to have a non-Black family member, but because we want our children to be happy.

We must all work out our existence here in our own ways and in our own times. My word out to my sisters is not to allow people who don't even have the common decency to get to know you before judging you, bring that toxic waste into your life! You and your man will in all probability, everything working according to nature, have children. Do you really want your children not to know your husband's side of the family? Or to know they can't talk to them or visit them because they despise the color of their skin? Think it over.

I'm not saying not to marry an Asian man but you must work this out before you do. Don't think just because the two of you marry and you're now in the family they will automatically accept you.

There are some fine, strong Asian men out there. I am at the age where any man I'd get involved with would probably have deceased parents anyway so it's not an issue. Good thing too, because if they were still alive and interfering, he wouldn't get none of this.